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This week the guys tackle the sensitive issue of shame based parenting. Did your parents use shame as a motivator when you were growing up? Do you ever find yourself doing the same with your kids? Do you want to stop? Do you find I’m using too many rhetorical questions in a row? Do you find this irritating? Would you like to shame me into stopping? Tune in!!!
Links to information discussed in the show:
Guilt vs. Shame
John Gottman Complaining vs Criticism
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Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers
Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
1. Create a contract: 5-7 expectations and 2-3 consequences for if they fail to meet the expectations. This contract should help take emotion out of discipline.
2. Treat discipline like a business transaction. The child did something wrong so they get consequences, nothing more - nothing less. Depersonalize the transaction.
3. Remove sarcasm from discipline.
4. If you'd like more help in this area, contact Jimmy and Josh at The Timothy Center. Just go to www.timothycenter.com.