Episode #52 - Stinkin' Thinkin'
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Do you struggle with “stinkin thinkin”? Odds are, yes. At some level all of us do. Join the Pairadocs today as they discuss ways your brain plays tricks on you.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Quotes from the Show:
1. Personalizing - I'm not that important
2. Fallacy of Fairness - your rule book does not apply across the board
4. Internal Locus of Control
5. 'Shoulding' on people
6. The Fallacy of Being Right
Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
1. List of Cognitive Distortions:
Black or White- You see things as all or nothing.
Exaggerating- You make statements that include never, nothing, everything, or always
Negative Filtering- Ignoring the positive and focusing only on the negative
Discount Positives- Rejecting positive experiences as being unimportant or not meaningful
Catastrophizing- You believe that what is happening is so terrible that you won’t be able to handle it.
Shoulding on people- You see events in terms of how things should be, rather than what is.
Mind reading- You assume that you know what people are thinking without evidence for it.
Fortune Telling- You predict negative things will happen.
Feelings are facts- You think that because I feel a certain way, it must be true.
Labeling- You give negative traits to yourself/others
Self-blaming- You hold yourself responsible when the circumstance may not be entirely your fault
Double Standard- You hold yourself to a standard that you don’t hold others to.
2. If you or a loved one struggles in this area he/she must learn to stay a step back and take a bird's eye view of the situation. Play as if you yourself are the counselor for a friend given this same scenario. How would you counsel him/her to think? Feel? Respond?
3. Do not hesitate to apologize and seek forgiveness if you have wronged someone through your cognitive distortions.
4. If you'd like more help in this area, call Jimmy, Josh or one of their licensed professionals for assistance. For more information go to www.timothycenter.com.