Episode #66 - Changing with Your Kids
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Boss, Manager, Consultant. The guys sit down and discuss a practical way to view parenting throughout your child’s development.
Links to information discussed in the show:
Grace Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel
Quotes from the Show:
When your kids are young, you (the parents) are the boss. "They might have a say, but you get your way."
When they reach adolescence, the parents are managers. Freedom within boundaries and punishment when stepping outside those boundaries.
When kids are in college and beyond, the parents are consultants.
Protect girls, prepare boys.
Parenting is an 18 year process of de-parenting. You go from total control to relatively none.
Part of learning is making bad choices.
Take a Seat on the Couch:
If this episode hits home for you. If you believe you and your family struggle with this particular area, read below for next steps for you and your family:
1. Identify whether or not you have too much control over your children or not enough? If you need help, sit down with a friend and ask for insight.
2. If your child is between the ages of 12-18, you need a family "adolescent job description". Sit down and write out your top 6-8 expectations for the teens in your home. Also think through and write out 2-3 consequences that you'll implement if these expectations are broken. Let the job description be the bad guy. Within those boundaries, allow your child to opportunity to make decisions.
3. If your child is out of high school, only speak when spoken to!
4. If you'd like more assistance in this area, contact Jimmy, Josh or one of their licensed professionals at www.timothycenter.com.